5 Things I Wish I'd Tried Sooner As A Recovering People Pleaser ❤️🐴

When things in my life hit hard, it was a difficult wake up call that my tendency to people please was actually creating a lot of problems, not helping them like I often thought. I wore it like a badge of honor when there is not honor in it. In fact, one pivotal moment was when I set down a firm boundary. It was incredibly painful for me--but it was needed. That difficult decision was a turning point in my relationships--even as it was sometimes held against. When I finally said no more. I began to heal, and so did those around me. People pleasing seems like a good-bad trait. But trust me, it is bad. People pleasers actually build an addiction to giving to the point of depletion, even as the behavior threatens to destroy themselves and those closest to them. I know, because that was me. And yes! Working with my Mustangs helped me find my way through. And the truth is, it's still a struggle. I think it will always be me. I will always be recovering not recovered. My natural programming is to be the one to sacrifice, and then feel valiant and strong for it, even as it gives me a dopamine hit. I think those of us who lean this way will always struggle. But!! We can take consistent and specific steps to be better. To push back against the "good" and "compliant" tendencies and instead lean into relational health and honesty. Us people pleasers like to feel good about our giving even as it often comes at the price of authenticity. If you find you also struggle with this, I get it. I've been there. 🏷️Tag your friend who needs this message. If you need support, I'm currently offering free 30 minute coaching sessions. Just go to the website👆🏼and click on "Coaching" to learn more. 🥰🎥 @thetouchofamustang #Mustang #horses #therapy #selfcare #equestrian #peoplepleasing #psychology #mentalhealth #healing #healers #equinetherapy #horsepower #animals #wildanimals #wildhorses